Little Bits of Pixie Dust

Life should NOT be a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in an attractive and well preserved body, but rather to skid in sideways, chocolate in one hand, martini in the other, body thourougly used up, totally worn out and screaming "WOO HOO, what a ride!!"

Tuesday, January 22, 2013

More of the Same

For the most part, I give the appearance of being okay. I play with my son, I laugh with him, I come to work and am nice to people. I think that I put up a darn good front. But inside, every second is consumed with missing my husband, with the “what if’s”--- are things going to work out? Is it too late for us? Does he still feel the same way towards me? I am horribly (and probably irrationally) afraid that he will wake up one morning and decide that this is all just too much trouble and he doesn’t feel like working at things anymore. I want to work things out more than anything, though I can’t tell the truth to anyone in my real life because they’ve all decided that they hate A* and that he is awful and I’m SO much better off without him. I go along with it in a way, just change the subject as fast as I can, because I don’t want to have to hear the reasons and how much he sucks. I am under no false pretenses that this was all his fault; I know that I am at least a part of the problem and I can’t stand to hear him being blamed for everything that has ever gone wrong in our life together. I keep thinking about all the things that went RIGHT, and how desperately I want that back.

A* is basically homeless right now; he has been staying sporadically with friends and family, never too long in one place so that he doesn’t wear out his welcome. I feel so guilty as I go to sleep in a nice warm bed in a nice warm house and I don’t even know where he is. I can’t ever get a hold of him, have to wait until he gets in touch with me and when you’re thinking of someone every second it seems like years between phone calls. I just wish I could DO something, but I’m completely stuck in the situation right now. A* has got to take care of some things before I feel comfortable bringing C. back into the situation, and these things may take a while. If there is one thing that I am not good at, it is waiting. I want things to happen yesterday, so having to go day by day and knowing that nothing was accomplished is horrible.

Mostly I’m just so pathetically lonely. A* is my best friend and I miss him more than I could ever explain on this space. I have started writing in a notebook every night to him, every night that we can’t be together. I try to remember cute things that C. may have done or said, and things that I think of throughout the day that I want to tell him, and how I’m feeling. I may or may not let him read it someday. God I pray so much that there is a someday for us. Some moments I have a great attitude and I know everything will work out for the best, but then the black hole of depression sucks me right back in and I am hopeless again.

For some reason the worst part of my day is right after lunch. I would think it would be at night, but I think by then I’m so worn out from the whole day sleep is the only thing that I can think of. But when I come back from lunch at work there are tears just ready to fall, and I feel so helpless and negative about everything and this is when I think the worst thoughts.

If it wasn’t for C. I have no doubt I would either be in my bed under the covers for the next foreseeable future or I would be in the mental ward at the local hospital here is no choice but to pick up my feet, one after the other, squeeze that little boy for all he’s worth, and get through every day.


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